Leah Berenson
Leah Berenson
February 13, 2024 ·  7 min read

16 Parenting Rules To Love Your Child in The Way They Deserve

Tired of the same old parenting advice? Forget perfect schedules and rigid rules! Dive into this playful yet powerful guide, inspired by the pure wisdom of children themselves. From giggling with abandon to finding beauty in mud puddles, discover 16 unconventional (and totally doable) ways to show your child the love they deserve, straight from their hearts.

Ditch the Rulebook: 16 Unexpected Ways to Love Your Child 

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So let’s ditch the pressure, unleash the inner fun monster, and embark on a journey of connection that will leave both you and your little ones feeling loved, understood, and bursting with joy. Are you ready? Buckle up – the adventure starts now!

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1. Love’s Core: Show Up, Be Present, Be There.

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Being there for a child is the most crucial way to love them. Show up fully. Let them know they matter. Be present with them. You don’t have to spend every minute with them. Parents need solitude, too. Try playing with them on the floor, watching their tennis match, or having a conversation with them. Concentrate on them.

2. More Than Toys: Saying “Yes” to Time, Not Things

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To raise untainted kids who can accept ‘no’ we forget it’s alright to say ‘yes’. You don’t have to purchase your kids’ toys every time they ask. If everyone did that, we’d be bankrupt in a day. Say “Sure, we can do that!” if they ask for something that only costs time.

3. Ditch the Silence! Let Them Bang, Sing, and Be Gloriously Loud!

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One of the least effective old-school parenting rules is “Children should be seen and not heard.” What a stupid idea! Kids make huge, gorgeous, brilliant noises. According to Creative Healthy Family, kids are energetic and passionate. Give them volume. Let them bash pots and pans while singing off-key while the dog barks frantically behind them. The noise may not help the head, but it certainly helps the heart and spirit!

4. Meltdowns to Mermaid Magic: The Power of a Water Fix.

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There are very few better methods to cheer up kids than an afternoon at the beach or pool. They don’t need to be submerged. If your child is upset, don’t try to reason or punish them. Change the scene!

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5. Beyond Alphabet Soup: Why Kids Crave Bedtime Stories (Hint: It’s Not the Vocabulary)

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Reading aloud to your child supports language development and reading love. Why do we do it? But that’s not why our kids ask. Listening to you read means spending time doing something they enjoy with you. Whether you’re reading Llama, Llama Red Pyjama for the first or millionth time, put your heart into every phrase. It demonstrates your dedication to spending time with your kids.

6. Don’t Dim Their Sparkle: Let Them Chase Elephants

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Soon, your kids will stop believing in fairies. They’ll cease believing the moon is cheese, thunder comes from bowling in the sky, and toys come to life when you leave the room. The world will wipe away their whimsy. Nothing needs your help to speed it up. Let them keep thinking they can kiss elephants. Even better, you’ll be there with them.

7. Dad Jokes & Silly Faces: Embracing Fun, Laughter, and Connection

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Kids are the perfect excuse to be “weird” and play. Save this excuse. Accept it! Party like nobody is watching. Share “dad jokes” without grumbling or rolling your eyes. At meals, make faces. Sing proudly. Most importantly, laugh with your kids. Laugh until you cry, split your side, and can’t breathe. Be stupid as much as possible.

8. Small Humans, Big Feelings: Love Them for Who They Are

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I stated this when discussing gentle parenting strategies, but it seemed worth reiterating. For true love, remember that a child is a child. Do not treat them like small grownups. Set reasonable boundaries, manage expectations, and forgive them often for breaking them. In other words, don’t expect too much from them.

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9. Beyond Rainbows: Teaching Resilience in a Not-So-Sunny World

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Your kids will learn too quickly that life isn’t all sunny and rainbows and that there’s no silver lining on every cloud. It’s not your job to prepare them. Not really. You must show them that it can’t rain all the time and the sky won’t fall forever. There is a bright morning after every dark night, even if there is no bright side. Most importantly, offer them the tools to find the bright side and the strength to wait for the sunny morning.

10. Eyes Wide Open: Love Wins, Even When Patience Fades.

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Yes, parenting may be exhausting. Kids can press our buttons and test our patience like no one else. Despite your last nerve snapping in half, keep your love in your eyes. Your kids aren’t just trying to drive you crazy. Their purpose is to test your love, says Nina Garcia of Sleeping Should Be Easy. Make sure your face and eyes show them that you love them unconditionally and that nothing can ever drive you away.

11. Ditch Routine, Embrace Whimsy: Unexpected Adventures for Unforgettable Memories

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Want to make lasting memories for your kids? Attend a drive-in movie in your pajamas. Go to the beach on a random Wednesday for mental wellness. Stomp mud together. Ask what kind of adventure they want today. Do something unexpected.

12. Building Emotional Ninja Skills: Teaching Kids About Feelings

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There are big feelings while you’re little. Parents must provide a safe area for youngsters to explore. Teaching kids early on that crying is as normal as laughing is important. It’s okay to be mad when things go wrong, even if they’re mad at you. That loving someone doesn’t require like them always. Teach them how others feel, too. It’s normal for them to be mad at you for not purchasing them a toy, but not to yell “I hate you!” It’s alright to laugh with someone, but not at them. That kindness, compassion, and empathy matter. Those feelings matter equally.

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13. Where Dreams Take Flight: Nurturing the Magic of Childhood

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Childhood is when we learn to dream and imagine. Loving and being loved. Here we find our footing and walk our own path. How to fall and rise. Where to find inner strength and unexpected joy. We believe anything is possible because it is. When we live in the moment rather than planning for the future. We learn what it is to be human. Never minimize its relevance.

14. Rocket Dreams & Cardboard Voyages: Fueling Your Child’s Imagination

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Tell your youngsters they can do anything they want. According to Parents.com, you need to listen and support their huge ideas, even if they include building a rocket ship to Neptune. Inspire them to dream. Better yet, dream yourself. To build a rocket ship, not simply plot! Even if a cardboard ship transports them to hypothetical Neptune.

15. Ditch the Yelling, Spark Connection.

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Shouting at youngsters only scares them. Improve your communication. No explanation is required.

16. Love Unbound: Actions Speak Louder, Hugs Even Louder (But Words Matter Too!)

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The best way to love a child is to do it and let them know. Show them you love them wholeheartedly. Until you’re bursting. You can be mad at them especially when you’re mad. To the moon and back, to infinity, and more than all the stars, tell them you love them. Daily, tell them a million ways. Tell them every morning and night before bed. Verify it with every fiber of their small bodies.

Final Thoughts

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So there you have it! Forget the dusty rulebooks and embrace the messy magic of real, joyful connection. Remember, sometimes the best lessons come with mud-stained knees and laughter lines crinkled around your eyes. Put down the “perfect parenting” manual (it’s probably gathering dust anyway), grab your inner goofball, and start creating memories that will outshine any gold star chart. After all, isn’t that what truly matters? Raising happy, loved, and adventurous little humans who know, without a doubt, that they’re cherished to the moon and back (and maybe even to Neptune in a cardboard rocket ship!). Now go forth, have fun, and unleash the love! (P.S. Don’t forget to pack extra snacks – adventures can be messy!)

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